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Pet Care: On Forgiving Your Pet

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Forgiving Your Pet

Forgiving Your Pet

 My cat Lou is a pretty easygoing fellow. He travels with hardly a complaint (quite a marvel in the cat world) and enjoys snuggling like it’s his job. But he’s not perfect.

This morning, he tried to take off my foot. He didn’t succeed of course, but in an instant, he left four deep puncture wounds. It was not a playful nip. After an embarrassing yelp, I tried to keep the blood from getting on the carpet and my tears from pouring. Neither effort was successful.

Yes, I was in pain, but I was also feeling shocked and sad. Why would Lou do something like that when he’s never displayed violent tendencies (except towards his cotton mice) until now? My fiancé E. had a few guesses.

E. and I brought Lou on our road trip to North Carolina for the holidays. Although Lou was a champ in the car, I know that travel and a change of routine is stressful for cats. To add to the stress, Lou is staying in my parents’ house where another, older male cat rules the roost. We had vague hopes that the two felines might be friends, but we weren’t surprised when my parents’ cat hissed and carried as soon as he saw Lou. Since their initial meeting, we’ve been successful at keeping them separate. Lou stays upstairs while the other cat stays downstairs (which is his preferred turf anyways).

It seemed that Lou was adjusting well to his temporary home upstairs. He loves rolling around on the carpet (a nice break from our hardwood floors in our apartment), and he makes himself cozy on our bed.

But we know he must be confused and anxious. He’s in another animal’s territory—and since he was three-weeks-old, he’s never interacted with another animal.

Over the past few days, we’d noticed that he was treating my socks with suspicion (My socks probably smell of the other cat since I’ve been spending time downstairs, walking on the rugs where the other cat likes to play). E. and I figured this behavior wasn’t problematic—as long as the cats remain in their sections of the house.

Then this morning I wandered upstairs after breakfast, gave Lou a few pets after he rubbed my leg, turned to open the blinds, then wham.

E. thinks that Lou was viewing my foot as an extensions of my parents’ cat—or perhaps he was jealous. We can sit here and speculate about why Lou would attack me, but we will never know why exactly he bit me where and when he did. I understand that he was probably stressed and nervous, but beyond that I’m not sure.

I believe, however, that Lou was acting from instincts and responding to something in a way that was right to him. My job as a pet guardian is to pay better attention to any warning signs (like the socks incidents) and be more responsive (when possible). For example, spending more time playing with Lou could help ease his stress and safely exercise some of his more aggressive instincts. And I also must forgive him.

From peeing on the carpet to scratching your mother-in-law’s antique sofa to giving you a nasty bite, pets can do all sorts of upsetting things. Moving forward and continuing to foster a loving relationship with them requires forgiveness—even for the actions we don’t quite understand and the actions that physically and emotionally hurt us. In many cases, it also means looking for ways to better read and respond to your furry friend. Beyond feeding your cat or dog, how else can you provide for their needs? How can you show them love and forgiveness?

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Photo: Mary Hood

Mary Hood Luttrell

Mary Hood Luttrell

Beauty Editor at Peaceful Dumpling
Peaceful Dumpling Beauty Editor and creator of Bisou du Jour, Mary Hood Luttrell lives with her husband in Corpus Christi, Texas. Mary is a freelance writer and writing and blogging consultant. A lover of whole foods, Mary delights in learning new ways to prepare vegan dishes. Mary also enjoys reading and writing poetry, art journaling, running, and practicing yoga and ballet. Follow Mary on her blog Bisou du Jour, Instagram and Pinterest.
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  • Julie Grob

    Hi Mary, that type of behavior is known as redirected aggression. Lou is most likely riled up by that other male cat, but doesn’t have an outlet for it because the two are physically separated, so he’s just going after the closest warm-blooded target. Sometimes a cat who spies another cat outside a window will turn and attack another feline member of the household out of misdirected aggression.

    My favorite cat expert, Pam Johnson-Bennett, has a column that explains it, and many wonderful books on cat behavior. http://www.catbehaviorassociates.com/redirected-aggression-in-cats/

    I’m sure Lou still loves you and will revert to his snuggly, non-attack self when he’s back home. I know that it is shocking to be bitten by one’s own kitty and I hope you feel better soon.

    • Hi Julie, Thank you for your comment! I certainly agree: the incident does sound like redirected aggression. I enjoyed reading Pam Johnson-Bennett’s piece on this type of aggression–it really makes sense! I plan to check out more on her site. Thank you again!

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