How To Tell Intuition From Fear: What Is Guiding Your Decisions?

November 4, 2021

Our mind creates all these voices in our heads that speak to us. Some speak out of fear, pain, past experiences, and observations of others. And there is another type of voices, coming out of love, guidance of the Universe and our higher self, our passion, and purpose. The latter is what we call intuition. So how do we distinguish between these two types of voices birthing ideas in our minds? As some of them lead us towards a wonderful reality, and others impose limitations on us doing and being great.

Ask yourself this

intuition fear

My favorite way of describing intuition is: “if I knew 100% that nothing could go wrong what would I do?” So often we know the exact answer, feel it with every part of our being, yet have fears speaking over it, which clouds our confidence. This is such a simple way to strip your judgement off fear. Ask yourself what would you do if there was zero chance of failure? This is your answer, this is your heart guiding you.

Intuition should feel like peace, empowerment, breathe of fresh air, and most importantly excitement. Fear based ideas give you anxiety, worry, stress, sadness, aggression. When the solution you consider brings up and is associated with these emotions it can be your insecurity and trauma speaking. But this can be tricky.

I was stuck in a situation for years as I kept thinking that the voices in my head telling me to move on were just insecurity and pain of the past, and I should just be stronger. I was wrong. Fear can also be showing you the way.

Fear as guidance

Fear also often points in the direction that we need to move into. As Anna Wood has put it, you should accept fear as a natural side effect of you living your best life and making your dreams come true.

We should stop labeling emotions like fear, sadness, and anger as negative. Fear often pinpoints and accompanies the exact move you need to take. My first advice was stripping your thinking off fear, but also the solution you are most afraid of is the one you should consider first, as it very likely is the right path for you. Fear then just shows you the obstacles you need to overcome to receive your next pack of blessings.

How I finally realized it was intuition and not fear

Here is my personal experience with this. For years I have been misjudging the voice “bothering” me all day long. From the moment I opened my eyes in the morning, this voice was there: “this relationship is not right for you, you deserve so much better, why are you selling yourself short?”

I was confused by the idea that fear can block us from receiving good things. So I was working hard on removing this fear that I labeled to be based on insecurity and past mistakes. I was meditating, thinking positively, using all the possible options of releasing that “insecurity.” Yet, the voice kept getting louder and louder, leaving me restless.

Follow the excitement

Something happened and it was the final drop for me to move out of the relationship that was not right for me. It made me realize that the voice that was with me every day was actually my higher self screaming at me, that there was something amazing waiting for me on the other side.

What happened was that I felt this rush of excitement when I finally dared to imagine romantic life outside of that relationship. I remembered that you can feel something other than distance, indifference, and desperate effort to make something last. For the first time in my life I tried imagining how the most perfect relationship for me would feel like.

Staying in the relationship became absolutely unbearable after that. It was as if after allowing myself to dream big and feel excited about what future may hold every part of me began to resent the situation I allowed myself to get stuck in.

According to David Lion, all we need to do in life is follow excitement. It always brings us back onto the path we are destined to walk.

How to handle fear standing in the way of your excitement

The fear blocking me from following my excitement was the idea of living with regret and thinking of that relationship as “what if I stayed” for the rest of my life. On the day I decided to break it off I felt fed up trying to fight that fear.

I actually spoke to it directly and said: “you know what, whatever, I’m done fighting you, I am not afraid of living with “what if”. Hey fear, just come and stay, I don’t care. I rather live with “what if” then continue allowing this fear dictate my life.” The moment I let it in, I burst into tears and then… it was just gone.

Not once have I thought of that relationship as “what if I stayed.” I only feel blessed about leaving it. It turned out that that fear was not real, just an idea in my head, a small block that was stopping me from moving towards my blessing. And that blessing came to me just a couple months after I got brave enough to receive it.

What fears are standing in the way of your blessings? And when will you decide to step into your better reality? Maybe today?

Face the fears that stand in the way of what feels right deep inside. Walk through them, walk with them, but just keep walking towards the best outcome you can envision. You are given that idea of the best outcome for a reason. Your job is just taking that leap of faith.


More from Anna: How To Deal With Negative ThoughtsHow Not To Settle In Relationships

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Anna Chuzhmarova
Anna is a certified biofield tuning practitioner, Reiki healer and writer. She lives in Amsterdam, is a sunset, moon, water, and life appreciator and enjoys time with her loved ones, studying spirituality and healing techniques, sports, yoga, dancing, and self-care. She is passionate about helping others discover the infinite power and love within them and live their best lives. Her Instagram account is @tuningtolove.


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